Two guys go to the same high school at roughly the same time. One believes he is more than his circumstances, writes in other people's yearbooks that he will be somebody someday, ignores the snickers and laughs, gets away from that small-minded little town, and becomes a world renowned speaker and motivator.
The other guy never gets his senior yearbook. The other guy likes money more than school so he drops out and goes into construction. And for a while, there's a lot of work and a lot of money. A few years later, he falls in love with a beautiful young girl... and gets her pregnant. After the initial freak out, they get married. But just around that same time things get tough in construction. The money dries up. He blames the girl for getting pregnant. Then shames her for being worthless. Then turns to beating her until she leaves, broken and scared.
He stays and never changes.
And to this day, he still blames others for his woes.
What is the difference between these two guys?
It couldn't be where they grew up or how much money they had. Neither had much support at home. For the most part, they were equal.
But one believes he is more than his circumstances. He accepts responsibility for his actions and, through hard work and determination, becomes the best person he can be. He also sees the potential in others and helps them tap into their best selves. Eventually, he becomes very successful doing that.
That man is Tony Robbins.
The other man is someone I used to know a long time ago.
It's not where they started that dictated who they would become. It was all about their attitudes, taking responsibility for their own lives, and treating others around them with dignity and respect that made them the men they are today.
By the way, if you're wondering about the girl, she eventually lives a very sweet life. It's not a perfect life.
But she is happy.