Strengths and Weaknesses

Warning... going deep today! We all have things that we're good at... things that comes naturally to us. We call those our strengths.

One of my favorite things about being a Certified YCG Practitioner is revealing people's strengths. I say "revealing" because we're not always taught to talk about our strengths, so we tend to bury them. We might have been told once that talking about strengths is impolite or bragging. And maybe, just to make sure we got the message, we were quickly instructed on our shortcomings.

While it's socially more acceptable to discuss how we can improve our weaknesses, we do ourselves a huge disservice. It's not bragging to talk about the things you're good at. When we identify our strengths, we're finding the optimal direction that our path in life can take us. It's a direction where our heart resonates, where our natural talents shine.

But we're too busy trying to fix our weaknesses to shine.

What we don't always realize is that our supposed weaknesses may be identifying things that are simply not authentic to our true nature. The weaknesses may not even be in our wheel house, yet we beat ourselves up trying to make it a strength! In our education and our work, we're often taught to force ourselves into assignments, evaluations, and job descriptions. We're graded on these "weaknesses" and taught to struggle to gain skills that are not authentically ours.

And then, we're even rewarded for the struggle... until we can't "overcome" it, at which time we're labeled a failure. It's crazy making!

But how can we have failed if we were doing something we're not even supposed to be doing?

One of the five elements I talk about with clients at Live the Sweet Life are Strengths and Weaknesses, but not in a way that you might be familiar with. The human assessment test, Y.O.U. (Your Own Understanding) reveals several inherent traits in each of us. Those traits can appear as a strength or a weakness, depending on the state of the person. Are they experiencing some toxicity? The trait will appear as a weakness. Are they feeding the areas of life that they naturally need fed? Their traits will appear as strengths.

If we understood ourselves and our natural traits better, we'd be able to not only identify what is authentic to us, but equally as important, what is NOT. We can focus on the activities where we shine, and we can learn to lead with those traits from a place of strength. Knowing how that trait shows up as a weakness (the opposite state of your strength), you can identify when things aren't quite lining up in your life and then go about fixing that, instead of focusing on activities that will drain you of your energy, taking you away from your true calling.

On Live the Sweet Life, I share a few examples of Strengths and Weaknesses and explain how they are really two sides of the same coin. I also offer a few examples of activities to get you out of that weakness funk.

And, as always, I invite you to take The Test for yourself.