Damn You, Facebook and Shopify!

I don't know what I clicked or what target demo I fell into, but last week, I started seeing these intriguing ads on my sidebar when I was on Facebook. They were questions that seemed to be peering into my soul. HOW did they know I was having an existential crisis? 

There is a situation in my life... one that has been festering for waaaaay too long now... if you've been following me from the beginning, you know what I'm talking about... that situation was about to hit a personal expiration date. I had a tough decision to make earlier this week, but I was starting to rationalize how and why I could and should stick to the status quo.

But then these little ads started popping up.

Dammit... what DO I want?

I don't know... I mean, I want to be happy. Everybody wants to be happy, right? But what does that mean? Does that mean everything is sun shiny all the time? No unhappiness or misery ever? I don't think that's possible, so rather than set expectations higher, I've allowed my minimums to erode. Are those minimums really something I should continue accepting?

And then there's work and home and relationships and lifestyle and writing and travel and everything else. All my wants make me feel so confused. 

Should I be doing something other than what I'm doing? 

I quickly got my answer.

Okay, maybe communicating through words IS my calling. I mean, I KNOW it's my calling. I just need to work on refining and defining it, I guess.

So then I started thinking about how I use my particular crappy situation as a crutch for not pursuing the scary stuff. I thought about how I might be staying in that situation in order to always have a reason (or a person) to point to for why I didn't follow my calling completely.



That made me stop rationalizing and start seeing. Really seeing. And then I got THIS one.


My life HAS been on pause. I'm in the same position I was five years ago, only this time, there are more lines on my face and around my eyes, and my kids are now taller than me. How much longer am I going to sit in one place and let everything else keep passing me by and spinning around in my head? So much waiting... for what? A shitty situation to get less shitty?


No more.

So I resolved to have a tough conversation.

And I did.

And because things weren't weird enough, the next morning, I turned on the computer and got this.

That's a really good question... one that I'm ready to answer.

Damn... Facebook ad targeting is scary good.

This is Seriously the Best T-Shirt Bra

Do you know how hard it is to find a bra that makes your boobs look great in a t-shirt? I don't mean "good" or "good enough." I mean GREAT.

And do you know how hard it is to find a bra that you look great in a t-shirt in that you don't have to constantly be adjusting the boobage so that it's not popping out the top or letting you slide out of the bottom of?

That's nearly impossible to do without spending a healthy chunk of change. I know because I've spent over $100 for the "perfect" bra before. But because of the cute design on it, it never looked perfect under a tee. So while my boobs stayed put and looked perky, they looked less than smooth when wearing a t-shirt.

A couple of months ago, at the Mom2.0 conference, I was fitted for and received my new go-to undergarment: 

Vanity Fair Caress Full Coverage Underwire Bra

The Body Caress Full Coverage Underwire bra is soooo comfortable, I sometimes forget to take it off at night. The strap is wide and soft with a satin trim that comes up and over from strap to strap, so there's no digging in on your shoulder. The front covers right up to the spot where your boob usually does the squishy peek-a-boo thing over the cup that is cute in a sexy strappy dress but annoying as hell the rest of the time. The wires hold the girls up and the architecture at the bridge keep them separated, so there's none of that center boob squish, either.  The convertible straps allow you to wear it as is or to crisscross for narrower tops. And, of course, because of its smooth-all-over design it looks great under a t-shirt.

You might think that I'm just posting this because I got a free bra at a conference once, but I just found out that they're on sale, so I bought them in every color available in my size!

If you want your boobs to look great in a t-shirt, get one!